Lifestyle That Pleases You or Others?

I came across a twitter post screenshot on my Facebook feed recently, I can't remember by who though. It says "If you know how fast people forget the dead, you won't live to please people." Few hours after reading this post, it kept coming back to my head. And I thought about life and how most people carry on their entire life with the sole aim of pleasing people.



My first and only piece of advice to everyone reading this is to live your life the way you want, don't stereotype yourself or live by society's standards. You can develop your own way of life and live in a way that pleases your soul, the fact is if you live by the way others expect of you or live the way that pleases you, the result is the same. Some people will love you, while some will hate you for your chosen lifestyle. So why don't you just do you, and live the way you want.





It is important not to derail or try to be perfect, sincerely nobody is. Live by a guideline or go with the flow, the decision is totally yours. Failure will come, mistakes will happen but don't give up. Stand your ground, stay true to your identity. The happiest people are the ones who live the way they want, not the way others expect them to live. Quit pleasing others at your own detriment, it is your life so go ahead and enjoy it as much as you can. Life is too short to live in someone else's shadow!



Why live a life that will be full of regrets in the future? Why live a life that is full of what if's? why lower your standards just to be able to please people that will probably move on quickly when you are gone? why rely on being at the same level as others, when you can grow and be better than them? why are you scared to fail when you can always try again? These questions are what you should ask yourself now, to be sure you are living your life to the fullest. Life is never a bed of roses, but it does worth trying to live it your way and giving it the best shot you've got. Ponder and think about these questions.



Remember that living a life to please others and not yourself will make you miserable at the end. I can promise you one thing, nobody wants to relate to a miserable person but everyone wants to stay in touch or close to a successful person. Choose wisely!

10 comments

  1. Thanks for your post. I had to learn and train myself to live my life the way that brings me joy and not live to please others

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  2. If I've learned anything over my 47 years of life, it's that people are going to judge you no matter what, so you might as well live it in a way that fulfills you. Great post! ~Kristi McAllister

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  3. I really enjoyed reading this post. It’s really unfortunate, for those who try to live their life for others.

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  4. I agree with all you have said here. You can never fully please anyone so there is no point trying. Thanks for this post.

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  5. I used to be a people-pleaser. I did not know other way.
    Being friends with everyone was very important to me.
    I learned it the hard way and since I live on my own terms, life has never been better.
    Amazingly it also has helped me shred and shed the faux friendships rapidly and without pain.
    Gotta listen to Number 1 - Yourself.

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  6. There's such a delicate balance to when it comes to staying true to yourself. You don't want to become self-absorbed. Considering the feelings of others without being a total people pleasure is healthy.

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  7. I am 100% a believer in choosing a lifestyle the suits yourself, not others. Well, with the exception of if you're in a relationship or have a family then you should probably compromise to accommodate others more. But personally do you and live as you like is my motto.

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  8. This is something that is always tough- easier said than done! I have worked so hard on living a life for me and not pleasing others!

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  9. Wonderful post and great advice. I have been spending the past few years learning to only worry about doing what makes me happy. You definitely can't please everyone.

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  10. Very interesting thinking, sometimes people pleasers end up being the most hurt

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